For almost two decades, I was married to someone I loved. We had a beautiful family, a stable life, and a strong friendship. By most people’s standards, it was a good relationship—safe, supportive, kind. He was a good man. We shared joy, laughter, lots of life, vacations, sweet moments with our children, and a deep respect for each other.

But here’s what I didn’t understand back then:
You can love someone with your whole heart… and still not be in the right frequency for your soul.
You can build a whole life with someone… and still not be in alignment.

Because what I had wasn’t bad—it just wasn’t mine.

I had already met my Twin Flame while I was still married. And what that connection awakened in me was something I didn’t even know I had been missing: a level of intimacy, spiritual recognition, and divine truth that shook me to my core. He once gave me a song with the lyric: “I never knew I had a dream until that dream was you.” And that’s exactly what it felt like.

Until that moment, I didn’t even know I had a hunger for that kind of transcendent love. And once that part of me woke up, I couldn’t go back to sleep.

But I tried. God knows I tried.

For ten years, I pushed myself to make my marriage work. I tried to restore it, fix it, prove my love- to him, to myself, to everyone- through what I now know was guilt and obligation. I told myself I owed it to my kids. To him. To God. I forced myself to be present when my soul was crying. And that constant self-betrayal created deep, long-lasting trauma.

Because here’s what they don’t tell you:
Being in a relationship that isn’t your true vibrational match will wear down your soul.

Even if it looks good on the outside.
Even if there’s love there.

It’s not about blame. My ex wasn’t abusive. He didn’t try to trap me or control me. In fact, he told me more than once that he never wanted me to fake it. But the truth is—I did. I faked it because I didn’t feel like I had a way out. I faked it because I thought love was supposed to look like sacrifice.

Even now, years after our divorce, my nervous system is still healing. That’s how deep the pattern of self-abandonment ran. That’s how much I tried to contort myself into a relationship that didn’t fit.

I used to think that if someone was kind and stable and loving, that should be enough.
But I’ve learned something sacred through my healing:
Safe doesn’t mean aligned. And love alone doesn’t mean union.

If you’re constantly having to explain yourself…
If you feel like your partner just doesn’t get you, no matter how you try to translate…
If you’re always tiptoeing around your truth, your light, your sensitivity…
If you’re not even sure you can speak certain feelings out loud without being shut down…

Then you’re probably not tuned to the same frequency.
And that dissonance, over time, becomes unbearable.

They’re not a bad person.
They’re not unloving or uncaring.
They’re just not your person.

Different radio stations aren’t evil—they’re just not playing the same genre.
And you don’t have to keep screaming into static and calling it love.

BUT WAIT, THERE’S MORE 🌟

Great news. You don’t have to settle.

Your Twin Flame is the one whose soul mirrors yours exactly.
They’re not “good enough”—they’re you.
They meet you on the frequency of your truth. They challenge your illusions. They help you ascend—not through force, but through presence.
And it’s a whole different world.

So if you’re reading this and wondering why your “perfectly good” relationship still leaves you empty, confused, or unseen…
I want you to know you’re not crazy.
You’re not ungrateful.
You’re not asking for too much.
You’re just starting to tune into the truth. ⛓️‍💥

If you can’t spread your wings around someone…
how can you ever truly fly? 🪽

Keep choosing you.
Keep returning to your frequency.
Keep pouring love on the places you once abandoned.
And trust—you’re not meant to settle. You’re meant to soar. 🕊️

You’re worth divine love.

I’m worth divine love.

Let’s get loved ❤️🦋

Honest 💯 Kind 😊 Shine 🌟

XxOoXo Kitty 😘